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[quote=Anonymous]When DH and I bought our house we planned on renovating the bathroom as soon as we could. It had no storage (pedestal sink), a large crack in the floor, and it’s 80 years old so it’s all pink (I’m okay with some pink but not that much).

Right as we were set to start demolition, covid happened and the stock market tanked. DH wanted to use the money we had planned on using for the bathroom and invest it instead.

I was really disappointed but that’s what we did. It still isn’t renovated.

But he approached the topic carefully. He didn’t demand, he asked really nicely. He acknowledged that the bathroom sucks and it’s not easy to deal with, but laid out the benefits of waiting, and they were indeed persuasive. And I know that if I had pushed back he would have said okay  let’s go ahead with the remodel.

If he had been aggressive about it or dismissive of my desire to forgo a good investment opportunity just for something that isn’t necessary and wouldn’t recoup the cost upon resale (and it would not have, especially taking opportunity cost into account), the whole thing would have devolved into so much needless drama. I would I have felt disrespected and it also could have turned into a dumb argument about me spending “his” money (im a stay at home mom).

OP it’s reasonable that you don’t want to spend this money but the way you’re dealing with the disagreement seems relay immature and frankly disrespectful. Probably both of of your are making that mistake. Read a John Gottman book and grow up a little. [/quote]

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