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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That sounds insane to me. I do timeouts, but they're in the kid's room and they can come out whenever they want as long as they are ready to be calm and kind. It's intended as an emotional reset, not some sort of ritualistic humiliation. [/quote]

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all kids are different. my child with behavioral issues HATES to be alone - sending him to his room is impossible and the process of getting him there just makes the discipline process into a power struggle instead of a brief, swift consequence.  and, in many cases, the kid actually needs a punishment instead of an "emotional reset."  agree that the punishment should not be designed to be humiliating, but it has to be some kind of unpleasant to work.  in general parents far over-estimate how unpleasant it needs to be.  but OP's timeout facing the wall doesn't seem that off to me.  [/quote]

Kids don't need punishments. They really don't. You don't have to intentionally make life unpleasant just for the sake of making it more unpleasant in order to be a good parent. Your job as a parent isn't to coax a particular behavior out of a child, its to provide a good environment and lots of love so they can have a safe space to find their way in the world. This often means not letting them do something they would want to do, but that's just a natural consequence of life, not a punishment imposed by the parent.

I don't know how well I'm explaining this but lots of parenting books talk about discipline v. punishment.[/quote]

YOUR kids don't.  MY kid (and many) needs appropriate punishment to establish boundaries and learn appropriate behavior.  But lol yeah, please tell all of us dealing with disruptive behavior that all we need is to "provide a good environment and lots of love."  You think I don't love my kid?  I love my kid enought that I got actual advice from an actually qualified child psychologist instead of reading "parenting books." [/quote]

The child psychologist said that you need to punish your child? I am intrigued. [/quote]
NP. Why are you intrigued? Reasonable consequences (primarily time out or loss of privilege) when expectations/rules are broken is recommended and supported by the major bodies of psychology and pediatrics like the AAP and APA. What am I missing?[/quote]

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