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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an AA woman so I always find threads like this fascinating. While I’ve been told that I am a seven or eight, I know that when it comes to the overall attractiveness hierarchy, black women are at the very bottom. Though I’ve been hit on a good amount, it’s nothing close to amount of flirting, free drinks, compliments, dates that my white girlfriends women have  received.

So for (non biracial, brown skinned WOC): generally being told you’re pretty, getting invited on dates. But don’t expect what a white woman of comparable attractive gets: there will rarely be free drink, the same number of dates, perks etc.

Said differently: if you find a good catch at 25, don’t dump him because you’re bored. Non black women have those options; pickings are far too slim for black women to take that risk. [/quote]

For sure, PP. Beauty is very racialized. I remember a survey maybe 15 years back of the hottest and ugliest cities, and guess who was at the bottom? DC and Detroit. Partly IMO because they were blacker and partly because the white men taking this survey (it was like Men's Health or something) were not even considering Black women (and potentially other WOC) and thus the pool seemed smaller and with fewer hotties.

I am the PP with low self esteem and my husband (of color) is extremely "objectively" attractive and holds relatively little privilege here in the US because of it. (Sure, he's favored over other men of his race, but that's 75% of it.) When he goes back to his country of birth, it's a hugely different experience. Of course, anti-Blackness is global, so I know this doesn't fully apply to even Black women in majority-Black countries. [/quote]

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