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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m amazed how many people feel a new mother should surrender her rights to name her own child to avoid upsetting her in laws.  What about the reverse? Imagine having a daughter in law from a different culture and insisting she doesn’t have a right to name her own children? That would be pretty offensive/likely to cause a rift in my book.

As well, DH may say it “has” to be the first name,  but here’s another place for compromise— Hani can be his middle name. No, it’s not the exact tradition. Yes, it does honor the person in question and the baby is still named for Hani.  Expecting a mother to give more in a compromise than her in laws is a pretty sorry reflection of how people think women should be treated. [/quote]

People aren’t saying she should surrender. OP herself says she likes her ILs and wants them to be happy with the name choice, and her DH also wants the name, so PPs are pointing out ways she can compromise to get BOTH things that SHE wants. If OP didn’t care about her ILs, or if her DH didn’t care, then she can name her kid whatever she wants and not have to worry about this tradition at all. But if SHE wants her DH and ILs to be happy, and she has said she does, then the only way to that end is through compromise.[/quote]

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