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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. Also OP is focused just on "can I sleep with my third cousin" as if the only issues are "is it just gross/too close a relationship." If we accept that there's not a genetic issue -- OP, do you and this cousin both see the same family members? Do you see each other at family gatherings? Do you have other relatives who are close and who would freak about this? Do you just want sex, or do you feel anything that could develop into a relationship beyond a one night stand? And as someone pointed out in an earlier post--does the third cousin reciprocate sexual interest in you? Sorry, but thinking you feel a flirty or sexy connection could be something you feel but which isn't necessarily there from the other person's point of view. So...do you have actual reason to believe this third cousin would like to have sex with you?

In other words: There's a lot more to unpack than just "is it genetically OK and not icky to have sex with my third cousin." Imagine OP making a move on the cousin, they have sex once and never again, but have to keep running into each other with grandma there at family events. Could be fine, could be so awkward it ends up sending up red flags to everyone else. Or someone in the family finds out and tells everyone and both OP and cousin have to lie and deny or go bold and say yeah, we had sex (cue grandpa having that heart attack....). Or OP makes the move and discovers the cousin is freaked out and actually had zero sexual interest--that'll be fun if they keep running into each other at family events....

So it's genetically fine and societally fine (to many) to do this, but depending on your family and whether they tend to get together throughout the year, well, it could end up pretty weird. Weird if you have just a one-time screw, weird if you develop feelings and become a couple. It's doable, but you have to think through the bigger issues IF you were to get found out/get into a relationship.

It all depends on whether you see/interact with other family members who might care, and if you yourself care about their reactions if they knew. [/quote]

+1 it's not a genetic issue, it's a social issue. are you likely to get invited to the same family events? if so i would probably proceed with extreme caution. if not, then seems ok.[/quote]

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