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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Open the front door and say go out. See you in four hours. They will find friends in the neighborhood. My mother never found me a friend. [b]The neighborhood was full of kids and they played outside.[/b] I know today’s hermit generation is reluctant to venture outside. Half of it has been caused by helicopter parents who monitor the kids every movement and activity.[/quote]

Completely agree! I'm so glad someone else said it.[/quote]

16 year olds don't go out to a park to find friends to play with.[/quote]

Correct. In the 1970s maybe, teens would get stoned and drunk in a park with randos. Maybe you did that PP? Great start to life, well done.

Or maybe you're talking about the 1950s when CHILDREN played in the streets?

Either way, you're clearly ancient and / or out of touch.[/quote]

I think you're the one high, here. No 16 yo goes out and to the park looking to "play" with friends. Or anything remotely close to what you're suggesting. Even the 14 yo is borderline for that sort of thing.

OP- school is starting in a month and a half. My DD was told that sitting at home 5 days/week was not an option for her. Ever. She gets a LOT of downtime (b/c she needs it). But, I pushed her to try things. She now does a fall sport and is signed up for a club or two in HS. I'm expecting that will expand her friend group a bit and find things she likes. That's what I'd do for your boys.

It's ok not to like something and then try something else. Or do something outside the school where there may be teens: volunteer, get a job. But sitting at home doing nothing is not an option that is permitted here. It's not for me; it's not for her. We are very lenient in many ways and, as stated, gets a lot of down time (espe if she's had a busy few days or week, I'm very lenient). But this is something that is non-negotiable. [/quote]

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