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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH demands sex in that he won't let it go after I say "no," or turn away.  He keeps touching me and kissing me and trying to take my clothes off.  I have to really push him off of me or use our safe word and walk out of the room if I really didn't want to.  But of course, if I am in pain, he stops, and we just talk or watch TV for a little while.

I can't really envision these conversations.  I feel like it would be like saying that you were going to lose weight or save money or keep the house cleaner.  Either do it or don't do it, but there doesn't seem to be a lot of benefit in talking about it in the abstract.

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That sounds like assault [/quote]

Yes it does. That's the sort of "seduction" advice I used to read on RedPill sites back when I was trying to figure out how to re-ignite my wife & I's sex life. The theory went that seeing that a woman would be aroused by seeing that a guy really, really desired her. Also that her saying "no" was a kind of a test to see whether he was a fit and dominant mate. (Or something like that.) Whatever her brain might say, her body would not be aroused by the kind of guy who would be so easily deterred. Her body wanted a confident man. That sort of thing. [/quote]

Messed that up: "The theory went that seeing that a woman would be aroused by seeing that a guy really, really desired her." = "The theory went that a woman would be aroused by seeing that a guy really, really desired her." [/quote]

pp here.  It doesn't feel like assault.  First of all, this is my husband, the man that I love, the father of my children, and someone I just voluntarily got into bed with.  Of course it would feel like assault with someone I just started dating, but that isn't the situation.  Secondly, if I wasn't thinking about sex, sometimes it takes me 15 minutes to make that mental shift, and kissing and touching helps.  Honestly, now that I think about it, it's a lot to ask of your partner that they be immediately responsive to your touch.   Third, of course it's a turn on to see that my husband really, really desires me.   
 
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