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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in-laws live locally and I generally have a good relationship with them. However, they feel they are entitled to be a part of every moment of my children’s life. I usually don’t mind and try to include them when it makes sense but they are really too overbearing and make it very difficult.

Crap hit the fan today as my 8 year old kids had a performance to end a [b]summer camp series[/b]. Attendance was strictly limited due to Covid so I asked in-laws not to come and that I would record the children’s acts. The show was also being live-streamed by the camp director for family/friends who couldn’t join in person.

In-laws then asked a zillion tomes if there was any way they could come and lo and behold, at a bbq gathering, other mutual friends mentioned that they had extra tickets since their son was going to miss the performance since they were going to be out of town. Tickets were given.

Day of the show comes and in-laws show up to venue. [i][b]I’m backstage getting the kids ready and then MIL barges in and asks for pictures with the kids. A high school volunteer follows her in and tells her not to come backstage[/b] [/i]and MiL doesn’t leave. I tell her she can’t be here as the performance is about to start but that I will bring the kids out in between acts to get pics with the family. Mother in law insists it’ll only take a minute (but I know her picture-taking habits, she needs one from every angle). At this point, I get frustrated and tell her in a more elevated voice that she needs to leave and turn away to go into a back room.

Husband is standing next to her. On our drive home, husband blew up at me and said I was very disrespectful to his parents and he was disappointed in my behavior.

I am at a loss. Perhaps I should’ve not turned my back on her but I was literally stressed trying to get the kids ready for stage as they were the first act!

Someone please help me understand![/quote]

OP, I will not speak to anything other than this instance and I am so upset I’m not reading the rest of the thread.

1. She entered an area of a camp where parents/family were not allowed
2. She refused to listen to multiple staff (HS/CITs are still staff)
3. She wanted to TAKE PICTURES BACKSTAGE.

For those who have never been backstage at a kids show, the liability here is HUGE. Unless your camp is a 100% arrive-in-base-layer camp, kiddos will be changing backstage. It doesn’t matter that she only wanted her own grandkids. She opened herself and the camp up to multiple liability issues.

If this had happened at my camp, not only would have the director gotten involved (first the director of the show, then the camp director, and yes this has happened before), and then if the parent put up a fuss the parent would have gotten blacklisted from camp, meaning their kids would not have been admitted any following years.

OP, I beg you — hold your ground on this very specific line in the sand and be grateful that it didn’t escalate further![/quote]

BLACKLISTED from the camp? GTFO![/quote]

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