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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe your ex could get a hotel room in the area every other weekend and have his visitation there.

Your kids are going to be so miserable.  I am sorry for them.  Whatever you all decide to do with transportation, I would push that he has to do pick up at your house.  Then it's up to your kids to get in his car.  Otherwise, if they refuse to get in your car, your ex can claim that you didn't do your part in delivering them.  [/quote]

+1 on this. Also, your kids are old enough to have a voice in this.  I would have them write a letter to the courts. They may need their own court appointed advocate or you and the x split the lawyer fees for a kids attorney. 
But you can't force a teen to go for visits. Nor is it fair to ask them to miss out on school and community activities.  
Most importantly if you ex wants to modify the custody agreement they have to file with the courts.  By moving beyond the 50 miles written in the custody papers THEY are changing the agreement.  Therefore they have to file with the courts to make the change.  This allows the kids. Chance to voice their wishes. Most courts consider what the kids want once they are 12+. 
If you ex wants to see them he should need to come to them most of the time. Sure maybe some weekends or breaks that they don't have activities or job they can go out their. But, at their ages that wouldn't happen too often.   [/quote]

Visitation is NOT optional.  This is really bad advice.  Being with a parent takes priority over school and community activities.  He sees his kids twice a month for 4 days total.  Thats unreasonable to stop 4 day a month visitation.  Its funny how people complain Dad's aren't involved and attitudes like this where your kids don't have to go or even see their dad are why Dad's are into involved.  He is allow to move.  He needs to drive them.  No judge is going to tell a Dad with limited visitation he cannot move.  He may require him to do all the transportations which is reasonable.  Stop forcing kids to make adult life long decisions that ultimately will hurt them.  Most kids will choose what their primary parent wants as not to upset them.[/quote]

Hi, angry non-primary-custodial Dad!  Actually, no.  Dad should not have signed legal paperwork that he would not move more than 50 miles away while the children were minors if he did not intend to follow it.  He is not "allow" (sic) to move under these conditions.  I hope when they go to court to adjudicate this change Dad is demanding, OP's mid to late teens kids get to have their say and reduce Dad's visitiation so they can do the things *they* want to do with their weekends, since shacking up in the boondocks with his short-term girlfriend was, as his actions (words are meaningless) make abundantly clear, was more important to Dad than spending time with them in the few years before they go to college.   [/quote]

If the kids decide to never visit, I wonder if this turns into a thread where dad doesn’t bother with Fafsa let alone paying anything [/quote]

:lol: [/quote]

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