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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is a form of racist micro aggression, when asked of a BIPOC by a white person.[/quote]

Give me an F'ing break! Your are exhausting. It's this kind of pearl clutching, hyperbole, and over sensitivity that that narcissistic, POS ex-president was elected. This kind of inability to deal with a simple, innocent question just give ammunition to the all the true racists out there. Please grow a millimeter more of skin and stop being so self involved.

I work in a job where I am meeting new people everyday, and in many cases will continue to interact with them on some level. Why is it racist to want to know how to pronounce their name? I think its actually incredibly rude and maybe even racist to not give a crap what their name is and how they would like be addressed!!!! It basically says "I care so little about you that I can't even be bothered to know how to say your name." ASKING THE CORRECT PRONUNCIATION IS THE CORRECT THING TO DO!. Now, to continue to ask once a person has said it's "fine" or "close enough" starts to border on pushy or obstrusive.

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+1000. People can’t win. If you ask a bunch of questions about their name, you are racist. If you pronounce in wrong and don’t bother asking if it’s correct, then you’re also a racist. Wtf[/quote]

How you “win” in that situation is to ask how it’s pronounced. That’s all. You don’t need to ask the origins of the name to pronounce it correctly. It’s not a bunch of questions. It is just one. “How do you say your name?”[/thank you - OP again. i don’t need to have a long conversation every time i introduce myself about my name. i don’t need to handle peoples (ALWAYS white people by the way) reactions to my name - which os hard, and different, by hearing how intimidated they are ans WHAT HOW do you say that… again 5x 
. i will stop saying you can call me Jane ans say i’d prefer Jane and see if i can cut the exchange down to a couple times versus endless questions which are so boring after a while
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awww. I have a Slavic name with a bunch of consonants strung together. No one around here can pronounce, some refuse to attempt it and almost no one in the DMV pronounces it correctly, though they pronounce plenty of non-Western European names correctly. It is usually WASPs who have the most difficulty. I always get, is that a __ name? I'm not insulted. If they ask questions (depending on tone of course), I figure they are curious about the world, and I appreciate that. Different strokes for different folks.[/quote]

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