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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is a form of racist micro aggression, when asked of a BIPOC by a white person.[/quote]

Give me an F'ing break! Your are exhausting. It's this kind of pearl clutching, hyperbole, and over sensitivity that that narcissistic, POS ex-president was elected. This kind of inability to deal with a simple, innocent question just give ammunition to the all the true racists out there. Please grow a millimeter more of skin and stop being so self involved.

I work in a job where I am meeting new people everyday, and in many cases will continue to interact with them on some level. Why is it racist to want to know how to pronounce their name? I think its actually incredibly rude and maybe even racist to not give a crap what their name is and how they would like be addressed!!!! It basically says "I care so little about you that I can't even be bothered to know how to say your name." ASKING THE CORRECT PRONUNCIATION IS THE CORRECT THING TO DO!. Now, to continue to ask once a person has said it's "fine" or "close enough" starts to border on pushy or obstrusive.

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+1000. People can’t win. If you ask a bunch of questions about their name, you are racist. If you pronounce in wrong and don’t bother asking if it’s correct, then you’re also a racist. Wtf[/quote]

How you “win” in that situation is to ask how it’s pronounced. That’s all. You don’t need to ask the origins of the name to pronounce it correctly. It’s not a bunch of questions. It is just one. “How do you say your name?”[/thank you - OP again. i don’t need to have a long conversation every time i introduce myself about my name. i don’t need to handle peoples (ALWAYS white people by the way) reactions to my name - which os hard, and different, by hearing how intimidated they are ans WHAT HOW do you say that… again 5x 
. i will stop saying you can call me Jane ans say i’d prefer Jane and see if i can cut the exchange down to a couple times versus endless questions which are so boring after a while
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