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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is she responsible for anyone's kid but her own.  [/quote]

Because when BF and I are dealing with a bunch of little kids getting out the door, grabbing snacks, beach towels, coaxing on sunscreen, kissing booboos, and putting on sunhats, it’s my view that a relative is totally reasonably responsible for throwing snacks in a bag, adding chairs to the car, or asking if the kids have peed. Not sitting on their phones and asking why the cooler is empty. [/quote]

[quote=Anonymous]OP here, waking up to lots of good comments, thank you. I’m leaning towards just saying that since she’s local she needs to hang at her place and meet at the beach or come for dinner when we’re there one night.

It’s so strange to me the push back on the details of my frustrations. I’m actually very open to it. But honestly, I mean, you have three girls who grew up together. And now was adults, we’d buy our own separate milk and label it? Is my “expectation” that she offer the kids bananas when she’s in the kitchen off? She’s not a maid. But when she can’t even be thoughtful enough to pour a glass of wine when she’s full of hers just is so insane to me. I guess we have a much more communal living vibe here? And yes to the PPs, my BF and me take care of her baby too. Baby poops, grab a diaper. Baby is fussy, put her in the wrap.

It’s honestly a pretty solid gig for my cousin[/quote]

[b]OP is very clearly one of THOSE parents. It's obvious. Her disbelief (feigned)  that people would want to do things differently is a dead giveawa[/b]y. I think you should end the trips all together  everyone will be much happier.[/quote]

OP - Please ignore this ridiculous PP. "THOSE" people literally made me laugh out loud. My guess is that PP is also one of "those" people - just like your cousin - lazy, entitled, self centered and totally obtuse. I do agree with their conclusion. End the tradition of all staying in the same house. She can still see you at a scheduled meal outing, come to the beach, come over for a kids playdate or happy hour, but then take her family and stuff and go home to her own house. Done. [/quote]

OP is actually really good at ignoring people who are telling her what she doesn't want to hear. NO actually I;m a very tidy guest. I was a former nanny and preschool teacher so managing my 3 children on my own  . I don't need someone else to help me coax sunscreen on and kiss boos  and feed my kids bananas. I don't think I'm particularly special for babywearing either. I would never assume another mom wants me to wear her fussy baby.  When guest comes to my home I want them to be comfortable, be it they cook their own meals, or not. They can play all day on their phone if they want to as well, and I don't insist they  wash  the dishes by   5pm either.[/quote]

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