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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So all of you people would never marry a teacher, a GS13 gov worker, nurse, even pediatriCians don’t make more than $140 these days [/quote]

I did marry a GS-13.  But OP is talking about someone with extremely high earning potential [i]choosing[/i] not to pursue making that money.  Teachers, nurses, most gov't workers don't fit that bill.

It's all well and good to say you don't care about money when loads of money was never an option.  [/quote]

i still think it is fine. my husband has a high earning potential (two degrees from MIT and a truly brilliant person) and he chooses to work at a non-profit and I don't care at all. if i want our HHI to be higher what is stopping me from working harder or at a more lucrative job? We all have one life to live -- I don't think you get to dictate what your spouse does. If you want more money, make more money.[/quote]

What does "it is fine" mean in this context?  OP is explicitly asking for a minimum salary.  So what's fine?  Would you be fine if your husband's non-profit salary was $30k?  What if it was $30k for 60-hour work weeks?  What if that meant you were trapped in a lucrative job that was killing you with stress?  Still cool?

Everyone has a minimum, and it's not shallow or evil or whatever you're angling at to admit it.  Before you try to put me the wrong box again - I make ~$500k which is 3xs my DH.  I can and do make more money.  We all have one life to live and spouses have chosen to live it together.  If one wants to quit their job on a whim for a passion project, the other gets an opinion.[/quote]

The context of this question is that the OP is a husband with a similar salary as mine does and his wife works way less or maybe nothing but expects him to make more to fund her life. That doesn't feel right to me, and in fact is not how I chose to view my husband and his life. I'm lucky to be married to him and not in the marriage for his salary! [/quote]

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