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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do what we do -- just don't give each other gifts. If some deals come up (holiday time sales, etc), we might take advantage of those, for things we might need or could use. But I'm happy to not have pressure to find *the* right gift, etc. Kind of wish all occasions were like this (birthdays, etc).[/quote]

The problem with this is it sets a bad example for the kids.  I want to them to see that we love each other and enjoy GIVING gifts to each other.[/quote]

Exactly.  And this is how little boys grow up to be crappy gift givers.  They see it modeled by their parents - the men who are crappy at it, and the women who tolerate it.

To me, giving a gift doesn't have to be so hard.  A gift can be as simple as a card with a lovely and heartfelt handwritten message in it, the kind of thing you will never throw away and that makes you weepy to read.  A gift doesn't have to be expensive.  It can be a commitment to cook the entire month of January, or breakfast in bed for the next 4 Saturdays. It can be a box of all your favorite things: a Starbucks gift card, a bag of your favorite candy, a new book or CD by your fav artist, a magazine subscription - that's about $50 bucks worth of stuff right there, but the gift is customized to what makes YOU happy.  It's THOUGHTFUL.  It's about YOU.  That is what gift giving is about, not materialistic THINGS that you can just go out and buy yourself anyway.  Mothers need to teach their children this, and if they don't, then the wives need to convey it.

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