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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the kid in this situation.  I knew something was wrong and the more people denied it, the more I snooped.  Eventually, of course, I uncovered the affair and was extremely, extremely angry with everyone who had lied to my face to cover it up.  Sometimes it's healthiest to tell the truth even when the truth is hard to hear.  [/quote]

This is the thing.  What kind of relationship do you want to build with your kids:  one based on honesty and openness or one that say I know what’s good for you and so I’m not going to tell you for your own good.  Again, it has to be told with facts and none of the narrative behind it for it to be healthy.  [/quote]

It's humiliating to be the last to know the truth about your own family.  And it's manipulative.  Parents say the lies and secrecy are for the child's benefit, but are they really?  Or is it to avoid having to deal with the fallout of how the child feels when they learn the truth?  Because that's just adults looking out for their own interests.[/quote]

Kids also learn that you can thrive after infidelity and when they fund themselves in the same situation that their one parent is there for them.[/quote]

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