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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be annoyed in OP's shoes, too. It sounds like this comes down to misaligned expectations and desires.

I agree with the others that OP will be happiest if she lets go a little of the idea that the family has to do everything together.

But I think she needs to talk to her son and his family about what she wants out of this trip, too. It sounds like she wants to be busy doing things - that's how I like to travel, too - whereas they are happier taking things more slowly. Can you come to a compromise? One activity, and two meals, per day, maybe?[/quote]

In order to be showered and dressed for breakfast by 8:30, in sharing-a-bathroom scenario, I’d have to start waking people up at 7:15 a.m. That’s…not fun on a vacation. That’s the daily grind. Not to mention the kids would be extra tired

I can’t believe you would be annoyed that a family is still showing up with kids in tow ON TIME to eat the free breakfast that grandparents are so desperate to consume to “get their money’s worth.”  :roll:

I want all of my family members to feel well-rested and relaxed on vacation. I don’t care who pays. You want to eat early? Go do. You want morning excursions? GO DO. I can’t stand go-go-go types on vacations. [/quote]

Right. So that's why they need to talk. Assuming everyone wants to enjoy the trip, and wants everyone else to enjoy the trip, I think they've gotten a taste of how it doesn't work - so figure out how it does.

I go on vacation sometimes with my parents, and with my husband's parents. We and they understand that we are going to do some things separately, and some things together. But we talk about it. It sounds like that's what is needed here. Not for OP to be upset and the kids to be scrambling to make some ridiculously early breakfast deadline. But for them to decide that is reasonable and what is doable, together. Communicate, OP. Try to get them to communicate, too. They might be working their tails off to get to breakfast, and feel upset that you still aren't happy - and if you could just let them get breakfast in the room, then you all go do something together later in the morning, perhaps that solves the problem.

Also no more resorts where breakfast stops at 9.[/quote]

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