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[quote=Anonymous]OP: first off, stressing about a 7 year old’s performance at a swim meet is unnecessary because they are very young and unlikely to care all that much. If the do care at this age it’s most likely because of pressure that has been put on them by you or a coach. So if your child is reacting to their performance please examine that. Parent/coach pressure has ruined many a sports career especially in swimming where so much hard work is required.

Second, it could be as simple as the fact that it was cold last Sat morning. The kids on my son’s team were much slower than usual because it was cold and little kids do not yet have the maturity to push through adverse conditions in sports. (And why should they? Plenty of time slot develop that if they so choose.)  I haven’t paid too much attention at practice but with my own 7 year old I can see how much slower he swims when he is cold — yesterday for example. It’s like he’s trying to curl up in a ball and swim at the same time. Hoping it warms up soon as this is supposed to be fun not miserable.

When you put your child in a sport or any activity, you need to let go of control and accept that they’re going to do what they’re going to do. They might be great, they might be average, they might be terrible. Just a free support and get them to practice or rehearsal or whatever and let it be what it will be. I have seen first hand how damaging it is d’or parents to put a lot of pressure on their kids to excel at a sport. They feel the disappointment and it crushes their self esteem.  [/quote]

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