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[quote=Anonymous]The women I know who are still single by mid to late 30s tend to be very picky about the wrong things, very focused on height, money, and a checklist and not focused enough on values and compatibility. Of course attraction matters but I see them overlook genuinely wonderful men because they are a 7/10 and not a 9 or 10.

Several let themselves be strung along by men for many years who are clearly not looking for something serious, but they fall into the sunk cost fallacy even when it is obviously not going anywhere. They let themselves be treated badly and don't cut their losses, wasting more time and feeling even more invested. Agree with the PPs who said it is poor self esteem too.

A few of them are fun friends but disasters in a relationship, being way too needy and clingy, calling and texting incessantly. A few are really, really desperate to have kids and it shows. They can't be laid back and have fun on a first or second date, it's all 20 questions about timelines and 5-year plans. It works on a certain type of guy, but scares a lot of them off.

IMO the magic sauce is being emotionally and financially independent, not taking yourself too seriously while still being grounded and having good self worth, having a good sense of humor, not being clingy, desperate or too available, and being in an area with lots of other singles who share your values, plus good luck. [/quote]

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