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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, they can change if they are motivated to change. DH was a serial cheater. He was going to lose everything- me, his job, his friends, respect of his family. He hit rock bottom and started intensive therapy and sexaholics anonymous. He’s 2 years without cheating now. It’s been an arduous process for him and his life has drastically changed. He says he’s now the man he always wanted to be. It depends on the person and whether they want to change and how much effort that put into making a change. [/quote]

How do you know he stopped?[/quote]

It's like a drug user, if you don't monitor them closely you often won't know. The relapse rate is pretty high. I personally don't believe in sex addiction, it's made up to con the victim into thinking there's a real medical problem to garnish more sympathy and not leave. It's still a choice to behave that way. It continues the co-dependency of the victim toward their perpetrator.  Hopefully pp has given him a final ultimatum and uses monitoring systems instead of simply believing someone who is a pathological liar. (hence cheaters)[/quote]

+1  Yeah I'm not sure how PP can know he'll never cheat again if it's only been 2 years.[/quote]

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