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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think implied in this conversation, but not expressly stated, is the belief that somehow, the wife can force the husband to do more if only she insists more, using the right words and logic.

But the wife can’t do that. She cannot make him do anything, full stop. A cleaning service is accepting it as true (which it is). [/quote]

A husband who genuinely loves his wife and respects her as a person would change his ways after being shown how impossible it is for her to do everything (be a working mom and a SAHM who does 90% of child and house related tasks).
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Stopping looking at it this way saved my marriage. [/quote]

Agreed.  This is not how men think at ALL.

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I just don’t get why many men just don’t think they should have to clean. They will let their wife do the majority of it, and if she complains they will hire a cleaning service so other women can do it.[/quote]

DP. I'm a woman and I don't think I have to clean. What is the point of working hard at my actual job if I can't use some of that money to avoid something I loathe?[/quote]

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You are conflating a bunch of things, OP.

Yes this advice is annoying to people who can't afford a biweekly cleaner. But does that apply to you?

If you need this extreme level of cleanliness (cleaning a toilet that often etc) that's just on you.

Agree with other PPs that this makes the total amount of cleaning lower. The deep cleaning, mopping the floors instead of just vacuuming, dusting all over, etc. There are still daily tasks like wiping counters, dishes, laundry etc, and those should be split between spouses and older kids.

Basically this advice makes sense for a lot of couples. Hence it is frequently given![/quote]

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