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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK OP I’ll bite.  We live in a lower COL area.  One kid SN who needs lots of private tutoring and one kid in private.  We make about $550k/year.  Kids 6 and 9.    DH and I both work a lot, me more than him.    Like you, we see our kids quite a bit in the mornings and evenings and weekend,but work much of the time outside that.

We 
- drive old, cars, not necessarily beaters (10 year old BMW, Volvo) but no car payments
- have a very skilled nanny who has been with us for 5+ years who we pay very well
- use wash and fold for all adult laundry + sheets.  Nanny does kid laundry
- always do delivery groceries except for occasional trips to farmers market or purely for enjoyment
- nanny coordinates many appointments for kids and while we discuss activities with nanny she often takes them.
- we do clean up our own dishes after dinner but I also know 
- Have a very good house cleaner who takes our own initiative.  
- I have a virtual personal assistant who fills out any forms for me / does a bunch of web research in my personal life (handling kid activity forms, researching vacation options, handling any place I might have to call and wait on hold, choosing gifts and writing notes)
- we have a caterer friend who makes some of our dinners (we pay) and drops them off, about 1-2 weeknights/week
- we definitely trade off time — usually one of us sleeps in while the other gets the kids ready.  We did take our daughter to school but nanny handles any drop offs and pickups in her time there

my advice, 
- money is best spent saving you time on things you dont’ like or allowing you to do things you do) This is backed up science (getting takeout or taking a vacation buy more happiness than a fancy car per dollar on average )   Consider outsounrcing anything that isn’t of value to do yourself (laundry, cleaning bathrooms, I also personally view a decorator as a great investment, we have that too, no time to browse through samples and I’m slow and not great at it)
- I know several high powered couples with two nannies. You probably need that.  Choose either morning or evening to get some extra help from someone, depending on when you and your DH would find that would reduce your scut work and most increase your productivity.  I’m guessing some to set up and clean up dinner and help get things cleaned up at the end of the day and also keep one of your kids occupied while you spend time with another could be a good job, or you could just go with the evening housekeeper.  For $30/hr 15 hrs /week you would likely get many applicants for that job.  This could be great for older kids, leaving you time to talk to your children.   I know others who literally have 80 hours a week of nanny coverage. For babies that is a good choice as someone needs to watch all the time.   You are sort of in between.

But you need to think about what your long term plan is.  You either realistically probably need to spend more on outsourcing(not THAT much at your scale, maybe requires paring back an extravagance elsewhere), get family help, or scale back one of your jobs). this isn’t a scolding, it’s just math that you already see— there are only so many hours a day and things come up.  Good luck to you!
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Pp here, a couple more details 
- you need at least one nanny who can take the kids wherever they need to go and who can do things like schedule flu shots, pick up random stuff they need for school without even telling you about it. 
- I can do all this but I have no hobbies, am exhausted outside of work and kids and am not in the shape i should be. Diet and exercise suboptimal. If some wants to show me the schedule Julianna Margulies’ character was following (yes I know it’s fake) to kick ass at work, do all these really distracting kid errands, run for office and be in awesome shape and perfectly clad and coiffed I would be most interested :)[/quote]

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