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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met my husband when I was 24. Neither of us earned much, but I earned more than he did. It really didn't matter to me.  It's not like we had a lot of expenses. He was cute and smart and nice and had a great family, and I was confident that I was going to go and have a career, at least.

In retrospect, I do think there's something to be said for the idea that if you have children together, you're going to be doing the pregnancy/labor part and also most likely being the primary parent and managing things at home, and those are both contributions in and of itself and also they put your career back. I thought if I picked a guy whose career wasn't bigger than mine and who said he was committed to doing things in egalitarian way that I'd have an equal partner at home, but it just wasn't at all like that. Our careers have both grown to the point now where we can afford to outsource a lot, but when our kids were really small, there was a period where I was frequently working 50 hours a week at a stressful job to get back on the career track I wanted to be on, and I was doing almost all of the child care and most of the home stuff, and it would have been at least somewhat better if we'd been in a place financially where my husband could have offered to get a lot more help around the house. (It would have been better if he'd been an equal partner at home, but that was so far from reality.) I sometimes wondered what exactly I was getting from this arrangement.

If I were single again, I don't think I'd care about the salary piece if it were a FWB thing. Money isn't part of attraction to me. But if I were going to live with someone and get married again, I wouldn't want to be supporting him with money that I'd want to be going to my kids. [/quote]

Yep, this is what happens when you believe love is everything!

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