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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Resilient” = bouncing back from typical disappointments, changes, etc. Moving to a new school and making new friends. Losing their lovey and picking a new one. It’s not the same as getting through abuse/neglect without issue.

I used it in regards to wearing masks this year. Not one kid at my son’s private school had any issues with masks after the first week. They adapted and moved on.[/quote]

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You’re confusing resilient with adaptable [/quote]

Ok so then explain when and how someone can be resilient. [/quote]

DP. In my opinion they are just different scales. Adaptable is like masks or a child who loses a limb. Children are very adaptable in that they basically accept changes to their environment and move on. Putting on masks isn't traumatic, its change to their physical environment that they just roll with.

Being ripped out of school and away from their peers for a year while under the fearful cloud of a pandemic, their family's struggling finances, the sickness or death of family members, this is traumatic and stressful. Resiliency is a child's ability to feel that stress and keep going. Keep getting up in the morning, eating breakfast, going to their classes, loving their family, listening to music under the specter of that stress, and eventually, resuming their lives and incorporating it into their lived experience and have it not create lifelong struggles, or not allow the effects to control the course their lives take.

A mask is a neutral thing, it has emotional weight because of external circumstances. So like losing a limb, the prosthetic is just a thing, and your body and mind may or may not easily adapt to using it. Whatever caused you to lose the limb is a trauma that you have to deal with, and may leak into things like how you learn how to use the prosthetic, but the trauma and the physical objects you are adjusting to are different things. [/quote]

Good examples. But I’m trying to understand why saying kids are resilient if they clearly can be so is a bad thing then. [/quote]

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