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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, up with insomnia and posting to DCUM, probably not the best coping mechanism myself, haha. Thank you all for some really great insights. This is why I read DCUM. I think the PP above who discussed the colloquial versus more clinical/formal usage made a good point in particular. I think of the phrase more clinically, I guess, something associated with ACE scores and trauma. That's why the usage sometimes grates on me, I think. But if you are using it colloquially, then it has a much lighter connotation. I will remember this next time I hear the phrase (and better control my internal wince).

Someone also said above that even for kids who experience trauma, you want them to see there is life beyond trauma, and moving past trauma is a form of resiliency. I think they were talking about not wanting to be 30 years old and thinking of themselves as irrecoverably harmed. I'm not sure what to think about that. I have objective trauma in my life (sexual assault as a child), and while I feel lucky things are pretty good for me now, I don't really connect the good aspects of my life now with "getting past" the assault. I guess I don't really see the harm in saying that I [I]was[/I] irrevocably harmed by that event. I mean, I was, you know? Things happened to me that I won't ever get past, and I am not sure what the harm is in just being honest about that.

I also thought the points about adaptability versus resilience were thought-provoking.

Anyhow thanks everyone, hope the conversation continues.[/quote]

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