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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have three and most of the friends we hang out with have two kids.  A few families have three kids.  Very few have one, probably partially due to reasons PP articulated, in that families with one kid by choice have different enough preferences that we wouldn't enjoy hanging out with them.

We just got together with three other families yesterday (two of us have three kids, two have two, all adults vaccinated), and it was a glorious chaotic mess.  We co-hosted with our next door neighbors, and let the kids go back and forth between the backyards, the older ones helped keep an eye on the little ones, who love the attention, and it was great.  We're also always happy to pitch in with each other and each other's kids, which isn't a dynamic I've commonly found with families opting for one kid.  All the adults are reasonably laid-back, which is part of the reason we get along.[/quote]

I am a PP who said I have 4 kids, and most of my friends in my current town have 4 kids too.  I think you make a really good point- we too enjoy the glorious chaotic mess! We have many fond memories of big cookouts where the kids played all day into the night.  And I feel the same, that all the adults we hang out with are reasonably laid back.

I would argue that having a large family, you get really skilled in making it an organized, productive chaotic mess and the kids do benefit from that for the most part.  My husband and I are both from large families, and we both get along with our siblings and are still really close. So this was definitely one of many factors that played into to having a large family for us.  [/quote]

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