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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going through a very difficult time emotionally and logistically re: my aging parents.  My DH and I have financial resources and are raising two young children.  I am finally emerging from a situational depression with the help of a therapist (bu not my DH) and am feeling my zest for life and my future returning.

But my DH is a drag, and when I am upset, he in turn gets very anxious and goes to worst case scenarios, which he taunts me with.  [b]I need a hug and someone to help me sort it out[/b] - not someone who can't handle his own sh*t or create some space for me to.

How many women are married or partnered with a man who actually has some emotional strength?

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Have you told him that specifically when you're in the moment? My husband is an engineer, so he has a strong desire to problem solve in every situation. When I am upset and I just need a hug and sympathy, NOT a solution, I tell him that first and he gives it to me. Otherwise he has a tendency to want to tell me how to fix it and sometimes either there aren't solutions or I don't want to hear about them when I'm really upset. So for us, me telling him what I need from him at that time can be really helpful. I'll also say that he has realized this on his own and I generally no longer have to say anything about it to him - now he knows to react with hugs and sympathy and then ask if I want to discuss solutions.[/quote]

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