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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]UGH! If I have to pander to the moms who make this brag one more time I am going to scream "SHUT UP YOU IDIOT!"

Why?

Because when I hear this I instantly think "uninvolved parent" NOT that they are the greatest mom ever.

Growing up I was that kid and it sucked! My mom was completely uninvolved and any kid I knew who was like me had the same.  That's why the kid is so mature - they have to figure out how to take care of them self because basically the parent has checked out.

As a parent now, I tend to steer my kid away from these "mature" kids because I know better. When I was kid, there were parents who I could sense didn't want me around their kids and now I get it.  I was making decisions for myself that kids shouldn't be making (most of the time they were the right ones but not always because how the hell does one expect a 12 yr old to have the judgment of an adult) and I knew things way beyond my years that just weren't appropriate for kids to know about or need to know about.  I also don't want my kid playing at these houses because I know the supervision will be nill as the parent believes their 7 yr old is mature and can make great choices for themselves all the time!

I know, I know, there will be parents who claim to be the exception but you are not.  A little kid does not get "so mature" and "so independent" with an actual parent being involved in parenting because if there was an involved parent  there is no need for the little kid to become a miniature adult.  
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I never knew what my problem was until now.  I was put in a boarding school when I was five yrs. old and had to learn how to do everything for myself.  I'm the opposite as I have never been able to understand how a child or an adult can be so helpless.  Not much I can do about it because it is simply who I am now but I brought up my children to learn to be self-sufficient from a very early age.  I hope I haven't wrecked their lives.  Thanks, though, as I said, I never understood why I am so self-sufficient.[/quote]

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