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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are 2 extremes. Make sure you don't fall into one while trying to avoid the other.

My mother cocooned and suffocated me because she was left to her own devices and forced to fend for herself as a child.
I hope to raise my child in the healthy middle.[/quote]

This was my mom, too. She would not take me out into public as a baby b/c of fear of germs. As I got older, she became obsessed with making me a "cute, chubby" kid and spoon-fed me well into the elementary school years (WELL into them), often spending hours at mealtimes trying to force fed me past the point of fullness (I was a scrawny kid, not very interested in food). In my very early twenties, she determined that she would pick out my future husband and set up a date for us, colluding with the selected guy's mom (The guy, BTW, was about 30 and still had his mom buy his shoes and clothes for him). The relationship ended up a disaster and she was totally clueless about what to do when I spent a week crying at home over the breakup. After that, it was all hands off and no more interfering.

DH, on the other hand, came from an immigrant family where he was expected to take care of all kinds of adult tasks b/c his parents had limited English skills. They once commanded him to call 911 to ask for an address (they didn't understand the concept of 911). He was home alone and cooking for himself from the age of 7.

Obviously, neither method was very sane. [/quote]

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