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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am sorry for both you and your sister in this situation.

It sounds like you are very upset and are missing important information and making a lot of assumptions.

You really can’t be in all of the provider conversations if you are not there. You don’t need POA to be physically present and to contribute practically to your father’s care. As troubled as you sound, you should consider going to your father’s town and attending these meetings while holding your fire. Get a handle on how the system of elder care operates. Do not challenge your sister’s POA or pressure anyone to do or not do anything. Take the time to learn. You’ll feel better and have more peace.[/quote]

OP here - I am involved in all of the calls, as I stated in my earlier post. Due to COVID, these calls are done on the phone. I have only missed one, the one this past Monday. Otherwise I have been on every single call involving nursing homes, specialists, doctors and nurses. I feel I have a firm hold on what is going on, and have all of the information needed and am far from making any assumptions, but thank you for your advice. [/quote]

I understand that you are on zoom calls, but that is a very different thing than being physically present and responsible for the elderly person, your father in this case. Have you shared your concerns with the social worker? They would be responsible for raising concerns with APS/ law enforcement if the stress shown by the caregiver was putting your father in danger. Please accept this with the sincerest of concern. It is typical for non POA family members to make allegations against POA and financial circumstances often are a source of contention, but nothing you have written in this thread rises to the level of adult endangerment or exploitation. There are conversations between your father, healthcare providers, etc. that you are not privy to. The pandemic makes this much worse, and if your father’s facility is as restricted as you say now, that may be why a move out is being considered.[/quote]

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