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Here is the truth: in-home care is only better if you can afford a truly 24/7, attentive, type of care. It requires SERIOUS MONEY but also watching the paid caregivers like a hawk, so commitment on the part of the relative, even though they may  not be doing the actual caring.

Can your sister provide that?

If she cannot, then for the patient's own sake, they're better off in a nursing home.
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No, she cannot. She becomes overwhelmed what a bill comes in and needs to conference the rest of in rather than make a call to whoever sent the bill. She's overwhelmed when my father hasn't made it to the bathroom and she has to clean it up. She's overwhelmed that she had to set out breakfast for him, which consists of a package of instant oatmeal. She was overwhelmed with keeping him on a low sodium diet, which BTW, was the original reason he was sent to the hospital - his legs were swollen up to his knees. They literally drained gallons of fluid out of the man. [/quote]

Is he competent enough to revoke the POA and healthcare POA that are currently held by her? I mean, this is far beyond a disagreement about what's best for dad. It sounds like it's objectively bad for dad to stay with her due to neglect. I'd get her off that POA even if I had to take her to court to do it.[/quote]

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