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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the OP, I think all of us have a lot of sympathy for you.  But  you are stuck in a victim mentality that is unhealthy and unproductive.  If you cannot really forgive your wife than you should move on now, regardless of the money, kids etc.  You cannot control/change the bad thing that happened to you but you can control how you feel about it.[/quote]

I agree with this. OP, it looks like you have reasons to feel angry. But you're kind of demonstrating the truth of that old definition of insanity - expecting something different even though you keep doing the same thing over and over again. Seems like you're stuck in your anger. Maybe your options aren't good right now and you can't change them, but you can change your attitude. That attitude seems to be really tearing you up inside. You're not going to feel any better as you dwell on your wrongs, you're only going to feel worse. Take it from someone who's been there. Get some help so you can feel better and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Don't have an affair: out of respect for yourself, don't. It's stupid and destructive.[/quote]

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