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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you don’t use her for “real” childcare - only on weekends to get some downtime? Since you don’t actually NEED her to watch the kids, I would put my foot down and decline her request. She’s way out of bounds. [/quote]

Yeah, this is the part I don't get.  The husband DOESN'T WORK but he can't watch the kids during the week.  The wife "works" but it is a start-up not bringing in any money and no health insurance, and SHE needs a break on the weekends???  There is something going really wrong in this household and it isn't the grandparents.  [/quote]

OP here. My husband does the bulk of the childcare during the week. My parents help on some weekends (usually one day, sometimes overnight). They had also promised to watch kids for a week so we could have a vacation.

We have good health insurance. We are comfortably covering our bills from savings, we just don't have $40K/year for a nanny.

I'm not sure if I'm missing something here, but we have two young kids and it's really hard. They need to constantly be watched, they wake up at night. When I'm not working, I watch them, husband applies to jobs or cooks or does laundry. We are both on every single minute 13-14 hours/day (except bathroom breaks). We both did investment banking in the past, and this is harder. When one kid is napping or calmly playing, the other is awake. If they're both occupied, we need to make lunch or dinner or take out the trash or pay the bills. We try not to do too much screentime and we cook our own food (no separate meals for kids).

Maybe there's some parenting secret we haven't figured out since the youngest was born, but yes, we are both working really hard all day every day to keep up with running the startup (me), applying to jobs (husband), and kids/house (both of us). Obviously if our kids were older and in school, this would not be a problem, but that's a few years away.[/quote]

We're confused why you're confused.  Your husband is home not working.  He is your full-time weekday childcare.  On weekends, you are tired, but you continue to care full-time for the kids you chose to have.  It is what literally every other parent who can't afford a nanny is doing.  What is the question?[/quote]

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