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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like a jerk OP.  [/quote]

OP here. You get the award for most constructive comment in the thread :) 
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Kudos for still having your sense of humor!

I tend to agree that he needs to keep trying with recruiters. Also, maybe an executive coach? I have done a few session with a career/executive coach and found it invaluable. They helped me distill my goals and WHY those were my goals, helped me prepare an elevator speech, etc.

I don't know about more school/debt. It really depends.

And he has to figure out how to build a network. If he wants to go into a particular non-profit field there has to be a reason why and there has to be somewhere this type of non-profit's work is advertised or observed. He should be attending those events, even if it's virtual. Follow people on Twitter to understand what's happening in the field. Read reports, whatever. And people like to talk about themselves. I haven't been in the job market in a million jillion years, but I assume the concept of an informational interview is still viable. Don't cold call or cold e-mail asking if the target non-profit has a job. Research and e-mail the relevant person at the organization because you are researching the field for a possible career change. Then ask that person who else he should talk to. People like doing this stuff. Unless he's trying to get hired at an intelligence agency, it should work.[/quote]

Thanks! The coaching is an interesting idea, I've passed it on. About the networking, you'd be surprised...just the other day he came across a post from a person at one of his dream employers while reading her Twitter. It basically started with "every week, multiple random people email me for informational interviews. I do not have time to talk to you. Please stop." At the conferences he's attended, the people who are willing to talk are the ones who are also job searching or trying to sell something (both virtual and in person). Side note: I have been to a few networking events (virtual and in-person) and regardless of industry, it's the same thing. Tons of people who need a job or want to sell something mobbing the few "powerful"/high-influence people in the room.

The networking that works is friends-of-friends (or friends-of-colleagues). They are willing to talk because there's a personal connection and then they introduce you to someone else who is willing to talk and so on until you get a job. I've seen it happen, I've even had it happen to me. We're just unlucky here that we don't know anyone who knows anyone in the field and we're total introverts with few friends to begin with. But I feel a lot better after reading this thread about believing in my DH and keeping on trying whatever we can until he can get something he loves. [b]If not, there's always the math tutoring![/b][/quote]

PP here - I pay my 8th grade daughter's math tutor $100 an hour. Not a bad gig if you can get it.[/quote]

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