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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- to get conversation back on track- money is ok. She was a teacher so middle class had savings and has enough for assisted living-  as mentioned, we thought she was in good health dec 1 when we brought her to stay with us— just all her rides and activities ended with covid isolating her.   We had no idea how bad she was and maybe a year isolated with covid led to downfall?.  
   Point is we had plan to move her into senior living near us- it was wonderful complex with lots of activities— under construction ready in May— this “in between” period has been eye opener and now we are figuring Out daily this situation.
 BIL is good guy - no abuse - nothing weird- he and his wife just retired and are building house 2 states away. I don’t think my husband has put down his foot to say ( or maybe he doesn’t agree) that they need to come stay in hotel every other month and help us. They call her daily and they physically moved her stuff up her but then went back to their life. I feel like they are retired and should help more. They are posting pics skiing with their kids- going on walks, enjoying life and I’m about to get divorced and lose my marbles!  It’s really like having an adult special needs child - and we had no idea how to handle. We take her to doc for something every few weeks- she doesn’t eat or bath- she has gotten very difficult- we weren’t prepared for this -I’m just mad they don’t come here and physically help us. It makes me resent my husband. I feel horrible about that. [/quote]

You need to level with your husband and he needs to level with his brother - brother can say no but at least you will know where he stands on the issue. As it is now you resent your husband and his brother because neither you or your husband are being open and honest.[/quote]

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