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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do a lot for my mom. She lived near most of my family out west, but the altitude was causing her to nosed oxygen. So she moved near me and I am the only local family. It’s a lot to take on. I have teenage kids to, and I know my husband sometimes resents how much time I have to spend with her. 
She had a health crisis a few months ago, and that’s when I told my family I needed them to come out and help me. So during the crisis, each of my 3 siblings came out for 5 to 7 days to help. It was nice to have a three week break. And by the time the last one left, she was back to living independently.
I know this scenario is slightly different, but your husband needs to tell his brother he needs help and needs a break. Beating around the bush won’t get the message across. He needs to be direct and say his family needs a break from caring for their mom.[/quote]

It's nice that your siblings did that, but they were absolutely not under any obligation to do so.   [/quote]

NP here. What’s your point? I see this response all the time. Ok, so they’re not obligated to do so, but they should. So give me a break with the theory to that it’s perfectly fine to stand by and refuse to help your siblings take care of your parents. The siblings ask for help, no you’re not obligated but so what?  I do t get why this snarky retort is helpful.

If someone needs help for anything, you ask.  In this case it’s for help with elder care. Get off your high horse that “you’re not obligated to do so”. How about you consider that it is the right thing to do in many circumstances. [/quote]

I'm the pp you quoted.   I wasn't being snarky or on a "high horse."
It's a fact.   OP (or anyone in a similar position) can't demand that the siblings help out.[/quote]

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