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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you asked a few times how much time two parents working full time with a baby in daycare actually see their kid.

From 16 weeks (when baby went to daycare) until 8 months, I spent about 3 hours per day with my awake child.  
From 8 months until 13 months, my mom lived with us and took care of baby, so I saw baby constantly.
At 13 months we had another care situation change, and baby started to stay up later, so from then until 2ish I spent 4 hours per day with my awake child.

I have also spent pretty much the entire weekend with my child since birth, minus a few hours for exercise, going out with friends, kids nap time, etc.[/quote]

DH and I flexed our schedules, so I would go in early and he would go in late.  So baby/toddler would be with a parent from around 6:30am-9:30am, and from around 5:30pm-bedtime (around 7:30 - 8:30 - our DS was never a long sleeper).  So that's around 5 hrs/day. To be honest it always, always seemed like too little for me, and in retrospect I wish I took the whole first year off of work.  At the same same, as long as babies are in good hands, they don't generally notice who is taking care of them.  But it's really, really hard to spend less time than you want with your baby, and to balance work and childcare.

DS is now older (8) and it's actually much more important that he have quality and quantity time than when he was a baby. He's more independent of course, but I can't imagine a schedule where I only saw him 2 hrs/day.  What seems ideal to me is working 35 hrs/week so I could get home by 5 every day to handle homework, dinner, etc, and be relatively unstressed so I can spend quality time with him. [/quote]

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