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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, are your parents sending other relatives $? This could be causing strife with your sister. Tell them to stop. There are a lot of cultural differences to unpack between an UMC American upbringing and MC Zambian upbringing. Maybe your sister's marriage is not as secure as you think. Your sister may also be getting frequent requests from relatives for money, sponsorship, etc.

My advice: Don't tell your family members she is rich and tell your parents to stop telling family members she is rich. She needs some space, my guess is she will come around to helping support your parents when the s*** hits the fan.

One reason Americans are "rich" is because we focus financial support on our nuclear families.[/quote]

OP, if your parents have already put the word out to the entire extended family in Zambia that your sister is now rich, the damage there is done. I get how you could be frustrated that your parents truly could not eat (if that were the case) while your sister was planning a lavish wedding - but as many posters have said to you over and over again - this was not her money. Her in laws can spend their money how they please and your sister would have been incredibly out of line to ask for money from them to give to your parents.

Are you inlaws also from Zambia, or a similar place and have just been established in the states longer? Because if not, they would have no understanding of the cultural differences.

Your parents need to get some sort of jobs here and if they are sending a DIME back home to Zambia, that is not acceptable. At all. They are too poor to do that. [/quote]

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