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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have any leverage to include it in your divorce settlement agreement? [/quote]

Include what?[/quote]

It is a very typical divorce settlement clause that the new partners not to be introduced to kids until after 6-12 months AFTER the divorce. I understand you are not even divorced yet! Basically he abandons you and your son, and yet wants some overnights. This is insane, I would only offer him visitation in such situation and request full custody and increased child support[/quote]
You guys are so delusional. There is no abandonment. You are allowed to leave. Certainly he’s not abandoning the child if he wants overnighted. You don’t get full custody and increased child support in these circumstances. You all are so unrealistic and talking from a place of such naïveté that you offer nothing helpful for OP.[/quote]

How is he going to enforce his custody rights, if the OP just refuses these overnights? There is no divorce settlement agreement in place, and the husband would have to go to court for temporary custody schedule. These hearings are not easy to get during covid. She can easily drag it out for a year increasing his legal bills. I am not saying OP would easily get full custody but she can make life difficult enough for dad if he moves out like that. [/quote]

NP. TERRIBLE, short sighted advice here. That money should be put towards a family counselor for the child, maybe all involved. Not spending thousands of dollars to start a pissing war with the child in flux. It is terrible to suffer in a holding pattern and you may as well just light money on fire. It is financially ignorant and stupid and immature. I hate seeing petty vs petty. At some point, take responsibility and make lemonades out of lemons. [/quote]

+1, and OP deserves better and hopefully she will find a better man when she's ready.  How you handle a divorce/custody impacts your child life long.  If you cannot work it out, get a counselor involved.  Taking a child away from their parent isn't a win for anyone.[/quote]

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