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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are a lot of parents that lie. I was watching an interview of one of the less well known kids caught up in the cheating scandal. He said his parents told all his friends that he did all the work to get into Yale  himself. While most parents don’t have the money to bribe like these folks many parents lie about SAT and GPA or initiative. While that was obviously wrong, it’s not unethical to lead your kid to the water.

My smart kid was not interested in researching colleges. She wanted only ONE school and that’s probably where she will end up but it would have been foolish to have had her apply only to the ONE school.

What I did was ask her questions like do you want warm or cold weather etc? Do you want a big or small school? What’s else is important to you? I found schools in our budget that matched her desires. I told her to apply to 8 of these schools. Other than favorite she chose ones that generally required less extra effort.[b] I did all the administrative paperwork filled in her grades SRAR etc and sent her emails with Essay prompts. I bugged her daily last August to get them in. Essays prompt responses were completely hers but I inputted them into the portal.[/b] She had a 34 ACT and 3.79 GPA UW.[/quote]

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I was the PP at 14:26 and 15:08...I seriously can't believe that parents think that is OK.  Do they fill out job applications too?  When little she/he starts college in the next 12 months are they going to be writing their paper's too?  I mean cut the leash people, if your child isn't motivated, intelligent, savvy or capable of navigating this process with minimal guidance than maybe they need to find another path in life.[/quote]

I applaud the first poster for being honest. And I agree - many parents lie or pull the wool over their eyes, acting like they aren't as involved as they really are. Or, for those of you who are paying the big bucks to send your kids to private schools - this is one place where you are getting your money's worth. I have found many of my friends who say 'i haven't lifted a finger for Larla's college search and application process' actually have counselors, teachers, advisors at their school who ARE doing it for them. they may not be filling out the commonapp or uploading the essays but they ARE giving a lot of guidance to their kids that they are not getting from their parents. The experience of the private school college counselors, even just a small conversation or brief meeting, are very helpful compared to what my son's public HS has offered - which is zero personalized help. I'm not expecting a handout but I expected more from my public HS counselors. And with everything virtual, I'm given links to watch pre-recorded programs with the same resources everyone here is providing.

Again, read the bolded type, it is active involvement in the actual administrative matters pertaining to their child's college apps, not "advising"...If a child cannot do this on their own then maybe they need to find something else to do.

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