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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have friends who really and truly practice gratitude every day. Their lives are sunny because, well, they are sunny. It’s not that they don’t have hard times, it that they choose to focus on the good. They aren’t trying to be a brand, they really want to share and spread the good. Sure, their lives aren’t perfect, but I don’t need to see that. I have enough imperfect in my life. I check them out when I need a laugh or pick me up.

I don’t get the idea that “real life” has to be miserable, or sharing misery. Misery passes if you let it go.

I don’t get the idea of blowing out someone else’s candle to make yours look like it’s burning brighter, either [/quote]

Part of teaching kids good character is being optimistic and grateful sure, but it's also being humble. You share your good news absolutely, but if you are crossing over in bragging DAILY, it's not being optimistic. It is being obnoxious. It's like humblebragging on social media and then posting #blessed. That is not showing gratitude if you do it all the time. It's trying to hide your bragging. Do you see the difference? OP is saying this is happening every single day. Our kids should not need a constant stream of praise to function. Of course we want them to be optimistic and grateful. That doesn't mean they don't need read the room. [/quote]

DP.  Except OP openly states that she is trying to work on her jealousy.  The problem sounds much more like it is OP than the SIL.  The SIL should not have to change just because OP is an ungrateful and petty grump.  And you're projecting about the humblebragging so it sounds like maybe this is a soft spot for you, too.

Remember that you can't control other people, you can only control your reaction to them.  Fix you and you'll find you've fixed your problem with them.[/quote]

The posts here are so all-or-nothing: OP is annoyed by SIL's Polly Anna ways, so she's negative and a grump. It's not so black and white; think in nuance and subtleties. People are complex.[/quote]

This. It would be easier to ignore if the SIL just put it all on IG. OP could check once a week or every other week, hit some likes and be done.[/quote]

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