Reply to SIL who never shows a crack in the armor

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "SIL who never shows a crack in the armor"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I genuinely mean: seek therapy. It is not normal or healthy for you to be this fixated on someone.

Here's what: unless you see her everyday, or unless she sees your parents every day, why WOULDN'T she be in "guest mode" or somewhat "on"?

I see my ILs 3-4 times a year. We are all very pleasant, etc. But yes, I'm on best behavior. I like them fine, but we're not close. When I am stressed or feel vulnerable, I turn to ***my family and friends*** for support and help, not people I met a few years ago.

I'm sure I could lean on my SIL or my MIL/FIL for support and help, but...I don't need to. I have a very strong support system of family and friends. That's who I organically go to.

So if things are surface-level, "on" and best-face-forward with you and your parents, it's just because...she doesn't need you to lean on. Have you ever thought about that?

Plus, turn it around. Might she be typing, "My SIL is constantly negative, snarky, grumpy and looking for problems. I wish she could be polite, pleasant and positive FOR ONCE." Reflect on your own behavior.[/quote]

OP here. She texts everyday glowing about her awesome adventures.[/quote]

So she is an Awesome Annie and you're a Negative Nellie.  Let her be and you work on you.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics