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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. 
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".

I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise.  This comes from all different races, not just white.  
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I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair,  preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5".  I have been asked if I am married to a White man?  I am not joking.  Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me.   I have also been told that I don't look "Indian".  ([b]Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member[/b]).  In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...

My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.

To some extent, I get it.   Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US  because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.

But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either.  I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning.  Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband.  I dunno! [/quote]
Did I just read that tight-“look good  enough to attract a white husband”? So the standard of beauty is the ability to attract a white husband? That says a lot about your perceptions of white superiority and brown/black inferiority. That is  really sad. 
Btw I’m black with a white husband but have never seen things that way. I’m stunned![/quote]

I read that as, she received compliments about the way she looked and those people would follow up by asking if she was married to a white guy.

Basically implying that she is a surprisingly pretty or fashionable [u]because[/u] she must be married to a white guy/white family in order to be able to carry herself that way -- which is super derogatory.  They would not expect an Indian to be pretty or fashionable.

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Thank you, This is exactly what I meant.  The compliments given to me are backhand compliments.  [/quote]

Does this mean you look like Kamala Harris or one of her Indian family members?
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