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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Over the past few years, DW has put on quite a bit of weight.  Probably 30-40 pounds.  At first, I tried to be understanding about it, but over time, it has caused me to start to feel resentment.  It is very unappealing to me, both physically and from the standpoint that I think letting yourself go does not reflect well on a person.  How do I deal with this in a gentle manner?[/quote]how old are your children?[/quote]

Kids are 4, 2.5, and 10 months.  I know that breastfeeding can interfere with weight loss, but she stopped a few months ago, and if anything, she has gained weight since then.  
I am an essential employee at a demanding job, so fixing her lunch and dinner isn’t really something that I can do.  
I realize she can’t go to the gym right now (gym childcare is closed because of covid), but she could take the baby monitor downstairs and do a workout before the kids wake up in the morning.  It’s like she doesn’t care at all.  [/quote]
Yeah, OP. I'm sorry but unless your wife is getting 2 hours of time to herself each day, she cannot properly take care of herself. I can't imagine being at home with kids that age. She's also probably not sleeping nearly enough which interferes with weight loss. I think the fact that she hasn't had a complete mental breakdown proves she's winning. She probably resents that you get to be out of the house with time to take a piss on your own each day. Also, of course you could do meal prep. You are home at night, correct? You could prep some things then. You refuse to support her but you're resentful of the fact that she's put the needs of you and your three young kids above her own? Would you prefer she puts them in front of the TV all day and exercises? Do you want her to leave the house as soon as you get home for some self care? Sheesh. I'd love for you to be "on" with your kids for three days by yourself. Take some time off and try it. [/quote]

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