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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all. - mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available[/quote] Sitting at a computer and staring at a screen is not school. It’s bullshit and totally developmentally inappropriate for young children. Log in for 5 minutes and then go about your day. [/quote] Sets a terrible example for little kids. This is what's available right now. You get what you get etc. Then tons of playtime afterwards.[/quote] A child who is 3, 4, 5, or 6 years old, who is struggling through DL, isn't thinking "Well, this is what the schools system can offer given the constraints of the pandemic and health concerns -- I should just accept this and move forward." They may not even understand that they are struggling. That's what people mean when they say its developmentally inappropriate. For children this age, DL isn't merely inferior to in-person school. It's actively bad for them. You can see it when you watch these kids interacting via DL (or, more often, not interacting). They struggle to listen to the teacher because their language skills are still developing and they rely on a lot of context cues for speech to understand what's happening. Ever talked to a 5 year old on the phone? It's really frustrating because they don't know what's going on. It is hard for them to communicate in that way in that age, even though in person you could carry on a back and forth pretty easily. And it's not merely a "screens are bad for young kids" thing, either (though never forget that just 1 year ago at this time parents were being screamed at to reduce their kids' screen time). There are things about DL that are specifically bad for this age. I've noticed that my kid struggles specifically with having multiple people on screen at once in different environments. With a one-on-one, she can be responsive and attentive, but the minute there are other kids and rooms appearing, she gets sensory overload and tunes it all out. It's been five months and our school still locks the screen view so we have to look at everyone at once -- we don't have the option of just pinning the teacher to the screen. And then add in all the small sounds and distractions -- the people moving on and off camera in each screen, the constant tech glitches as a teacher loads a video or streams are buffering, sound cutting in and out. Its the kind of thing that makes an adult feel a little fried when we are dealing with it for work. For a 3-6 year old, the impact is much, much bigger. And that "tons of playtime" after? One, it's obvious many families are struggling to make that happen given work demands. And two, when we were still doing DL for our kid, those hours of playtime after DL ended were not about relaxing or playing or spending quality time. They were recovery time, that's it. It would take about four hours, and then my kid would come back. And this was distinct from the usual pent up energy you see in any young kid after a few hours in a classroom. It was like we had to undo DL every day. It's bad for kids this age. Not inferior. Actively bad for them.[/quote] Its terrible because you decided its terrible and haven't even put effort into it. As a parent, regardless of DL or in person if you want your child to b successful you need to supplement.[/quote] NP here. You missed the point. The point is that in a DL environment you CANNOT supplement because there is no in-person school. We cannot supplement having a teacher teach our Kindergartener in person. We cannot supplement recess with other kids while the parents at home are trying to work full time and assist in DL. We cannot supplement the skills you learn by being IN a classroom and interacting with teachers and students (learning to raise your hand, listen, take turns, etc.) [/quote] YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. None of that teacher stuff is what someone is talking about. Its making sure your child can read, write a sentence, and knows numbers/addition. They will figure all that out when they go in person. You can teach taking turns and listening at home. That's regular parenting. You don't want to put any effort in and that's ok but stop making excuses. Get some cheap workbooks and sit down 30-45 minutes a day and do them.[/quote]
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