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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't read the whole thread, but just wanted to say that it's very, very common for immigrant families to change the names of their bio children (even older ones) when they move to the U.S. Lots of my friends families have done this. In fact, my husband's name was Americanised when he came at age 6. Some of the kids resent it as adults, others don't. That's a complicated conversation. But, the bottom line is that this happens all the time in bio families and really has nothing to do with adoption. 
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Different situation entirely!  With immigrant bio families, the kids still have their parents and links to their culture (whether they want this or not is another factor altogether...).  For international adoptees, the name issue can be much more fraught.  It's sometimes the only link they have to their past and changing the name can trigger a lot of anger/sadness - may not show immediately but over time it can cause a lot of resentment.  I agree that kids adopted internationally grow up to have lots of different attitudes about this issue but perhaps the best advice I heard was "add to a name.  Don't subtract from it."[/quote]

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