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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you need to give more examples. You basically only argue that you were mad a friend called over the summer. Did you not want any white friends to call the entire summer? Did you want them to ask how you were doing (FWIW white people have basically been told to not ask POC how they’re doing because we just don’t get it). Do you want them to say nothing on social media? Do you want real, flawed friends who aren’t gold medalists in the whole olympics or are you as hell bent as you seem on ditching all your white friends because you’re racist too? [/quote]

I don’t want to ditch anyone (as I’ve stated before several times), I simply feel that it’s harder to connect with people on a deeper level if they, at baseline, don’t understand what you’re going through. There’s nothing wrong with being friendly, close even but there is still some distance. FTR, I have a white friend who doesn’t just pay lip service but she also walks the walk. She makes actual conscious efforts to be an advocate and an ally for POC. She checked in with me this summer and said “I can’t know exactly how you feel, so I won’t claim to understand but I’m here for you. If you don’t want to talk I get it, but please always feel safe to vent, ruminate etc” and that honestly was so genuine and caring of her. 
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