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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm gonna go ahead and disagree with everyone here.

I think it's incredibly difficult to lose weight and keep it off when you hate your body. And you clearly, just from your short post, HATE your body. I would start there.

Your body is awesome! It's what's letting you walk and talk and think and love and breathe and experience things. If you've had babies, WOW your body is truly amazing. Start giving it some credit! Try standing in front of a mirror and thinking about a few things you LIKE about your body. Start small! You don't have to love your gut. But eyes? Hands? There must be something you like? Build from there. Start changing your self talk - no more "I'm ashamed and I hate my body" but rather "wow, I just played a game with my kids, and I was able to do this because of this amazing body! Opposable thumbs! Eyes! A brain! True miracles!"

Corny, yes. And you'll have to fake it at first. But fake it till you make it.

What can you do to pamper your amazing body? Fancy soap or shampoo? How about a pedicure (at home, there is a pandemic, after all)? Next up - some clothes you LOVE. That fit your current body. Don't spend a ton (you want to lose weight after all, so I get that). But maybe two outfits you feel great in? EVERYONE deserves clothes that fit well and make them feel good. Don't wait until your body is perfect (spoiler: it never will be) to have clothes that you love that fit. Plus, weight loss (the good kind that sticks around) is MAYBE 8-10 pounds in a season. That's generally still the same size. I wouldn't buy seasons ahead when you're hoping to lose weight, but buy some clothes now, they'll likely still fit in March. Then you can buy some new spring clothes! Again, I wouldn't go with a whole new wardrobe, but a couple outfits - so you can go out to the grocery store with confidence!

Then - start thinking about how you can treat your amazing body better. I think that while generally, for myself and when I'm talking about losing weight with others, I say start with food. It's more bang for your buck than exercise. But coming off a major self loathing problem? Go the other way around. Start with exercise. What sounds fun and appealing? Can you sign up for a zoom dance class? Or do a couch to 5k? Or just start being an urban hiker, exploring the city. Start small if you're not used to it - maybe just walk around the block. Set small, manageable goals to help you build momentum. Focus on that positive self talk. Look at what your body is doing! Amazing!

Once you're in a good groove with that - start thinking about how you can fuel your amazing body better. Again, start small. I find its easier to focus on ADDING nutrients, rather than REMOVING calories, at least at the beginning. So - where you can get more fruits and veggies in your diet? If you're usually having two servings a day, can you bump that to three? Or four? Visualize all those vitamins and minerals going into your cells and your cells being so happy!

The very last thing I would do is start decreasing "bad" foods and watching calorie intake. Yes, eventually, you'll probably have to do that. But starting there is a recipe for hating yourself more.

I know this all sounds ridiculous and corny and stupid - but positive self talk can really change your life. [/quote]

NP.

I love this post.  Thank you, PP.  [/quote]

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