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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Enjoying both the diversity of thought and the recurring themes. For clarity; mom is only an observer. In this situation I myself would have replied “really looking forward to rooming together, no worries about the desk/bed -consider the window ones yours!” and I am widely recognized as a pushover by my circle. DD is not like me and shared the email saying this further raises her concerns about the assignment roommate after she went through her Instagram account and found no photos with same age friends (DD feels what she saw on future roommates Insta suggests an obsessive personality and a life void of friendships). DD imagined herself doing what sounds rude to me (ignoring request and deciding which bed/desk to occupy when she gets to the room).  DD said if future roommate asked she would just claim to have no knowledge of email request. To (pushover and very accommodating) me DD’s plan sounds awful and I am genuinely curious what others would elect to do in this situation.[/quote]

I don't think one is a pushover for granting a request. Some people wouldn't blink an eye at this or something else that would rile up another person. There's nothing wrong about making a request, to which you can say yes, or no, or let me get back to you.

It sounds like your DD is ratcheting up the drama by making judgements based on IG and then saying she's going to be passive (by denying receipt). Maybe the roommate is shy. Maybe she sleeps late, and it's out of the way. Maybe she's stressed and trying some way to have control (not over DD, but by where she will land). Who knows? I think your DD should just respond straightforwardly in a way that's honest to her. I mean if she's funny, or charitable, she could even write back something, "Sure Cindi, but it will cost you a cupcake."[/quote]

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