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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How well did you know the contact?

It's possible the situation is very different from what you were led to believe, including the basic information. Common last name might not be a coincidence, college student is very appealing, married to a business man, etc. In a region that was experiencing unspeakable horrors when you daughter was born, she seems to have a birth mom with a relatively charmed life. Think about it.

I feel for you daughter as it must feel like a part of her is missing not having a clue about her bio mom & dad. The DNA suggestions seem the least invasive way to search. You don't want to put the bio mom in danger and as accurately noted above multiple times, this is a real possibility.

If the mom is interested in finding her, she may be more easily found because she's put out feelers too. Please understand that this may not be the case.

You daughter may want to visit and immerse herself in her home country's culture because this may give her some grounding and fill in some missing identity pieces. She could  pursue living there short term as she's young and could find gig work.

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The Dayton Agreement was signed in 1995.  OP's daughter was born in 1998.  Most of former Yugoslavia was not experiencing "unspeakable horrors" at that time.  Don't be so dramatic.[/quote]

Please research post Dayton agreement conditions. [/quote]

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