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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are stressed, hormonal and don't have the benefit of years and years of experience and perspective to decide what is important and what is just "noise". As a mom of two now teens, I can tell you, that dad doing S2S is part of the "noise". So is the nursery, baby book, registry, and whatever else you are upset about right now. In the grand scheme of things, it does not matter.

I agree with a PP that having a conversation with your DH about how you are hoping that he will be a more active participant in your parenting journey going forward is a good idea, but as far as what is a realistic expectation for things that would truly require his participation vs. what is "noise", you may want to find a couple of good friends with some experience and perspective, and run these by them if you are uncertain. It is really hard to see the forest for the trees when you are so deep in the trenches, hormonal, sleep deprived, etc.

Good luck and try to relax and enjoy your baby! Things will fall into place eventually, and you guys will get into a parenting groove pretty naturally if you just give it some time and patience. [/quote]

Except you are wrong and no amount of years of perspective and experience gets you around the idea that when you know better you do better. Dads are more likely to feel bonded to their newborn children when doing S2S. More bonding= taking on more caregiving responsibilities.

I agree that the materialistic consumeristic BS isnt worth getting upset about but science. Yeah  no, science and his lack of understanding regarding his role as a father is worth getting upset about. Having an invested partner is worth getting upset about. If he thinks S2S is weird, what will he think about poop, urine, poop in the bath, vomit, snot, the god awful smell of some formulas, spit up, drool, the umbilical cord rotting and falling off, applying ointment to a circumcised penis not to mention all of the other things that have to be dealt with if you have a medically complicated or fragile child.

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